Don’t talk about the past but focus on your future <br /> <br />I would prefer to know about the previous <br /> relationships of the one “my one” and I would <br /> tell him every thing about me. <br /> I think its something that makes <br /> <br /> us closer to each other. <br />Of course I don’t like to know the details <br /> such as how much he loved <br />her or what he was doing to make <br /> her happy or what ever of these details <br /> because it will not help or do any <br />good thing to the relationship but <br /> I would ask about how these relationships ended, <br /> why and what he didn’t like about them..... <br /> <br />But after talking about such things <br />with your partner you shouldn’t be <br />judgmental and you should never <br /> talk about it again, or listen to any <br /> one else talking to you about it, <br /> or use it against him / her someday <br /> because that would break your partner’s <br />heart and he/she will never be honest with you again. <br />Just listen, take what you wanted to know, <br />and throw the story behind your back. <br />Just keep in your mind that it’s the past <br />and you are your partner’s present and future <br /> and this is the only important thing now and forever. <br /> <br />I personally believe you should give <br /> the second part as much information <br />as he/she plans to drag out of you. <br /> If one needs to know the name of every <br /> other gender person you talked to, <br />then squeeze your mind and remember. <br />If he/she only asks for headlines, <br />then go ahead and offer them but <br /> spare him/her the details if he/she seems <br />not wanting to bother him/herself with the <br /> details of a past history. <br />What I'm trying to say, let the other part decide <br />how much they want to know, and work accordingly. <br /> <br />10 January 2008<br /><br />Mary Wismer<br /><br />http://www.poemhunter.com/poem/don-t-talk-about-the-past-but-focus-on-your-future/
