To appear wise, one must talk <br />To be wise, one must listen <br /> <br />To appear to do good, one must be busy <br />To do good one must know when to stand aside <br /> <br />To appear to lead, one must put oneself first <br />To lead, one must put oneself last <br /> <br />To appear caring one must give advice <br />To be caring, one must still give space <br /> <br />To appear to love one must know how to give <br />To love, one must also know how to receive <br /> <br />To appear happy one must know pain and fear <br />To be happy, one must be free of fears<br /><br />Daniel Richards<br /><br />http://www.poemhunter.com/poem/appearance-of-reality/