I carefully explained to him that women <br />don't fall in love- <br />that is a luxury for teens. <br />The twenties are for fun <br />but after that it is serious business <br />to find a mate. <br /> <br />When you are a woman among boys <br />your vision changes; <br />fun are toys to be put away <br />which guys never leave <br />but us girls feel more responsibilty, <br />feel more, <br />have more at stake; <br />we are the ones who get pregnant <br />have the babies <br />balance the budgets <br />have a dream of the future <br />and the boy-men <br />only dream of womanizing <br />and giggling about it to their <br />boy friends. <br /> <br />We have more at stake; <br />love after thirty <br />is far more serious; <br /> <br />and second place <br /> <br />to the long term needs <br />of a child and a homestead <br />and if that is not to be <br />we have a career to think of <br />with a man <br />or man-free. <br /> <br />This mind-set is alien <br />to the man-child <br />who understandably <br />can't afford romance <br />or marriage <br />who retreats to his video games; <br />girl-chasing, bar-drinking and in-ward things. <br /> <br />So what is a girl to conclude; <br />one on one, or solitude, <br />adoption; or man-child on the week-end <br />for one's needs? <br /> <br />Well, that is the state of things; <br />things reduced to the affordable, <br />the minimum, and the possible. <br /> <br /> <br />We girls are the barometers <br />of what is going on in society <br />and the one's first <br />asked to make the sacrifice <br />to What Is <br />and to forego <br />the Used To Be Possible.<br /><br />Lonnie Hicks<br /><br />http://www.poemhunter.com/poem/the-used-to-be-possible/
