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Who’s Allowed to Hold Hands?

2017-09-02 4 Dailymotion

Who’s Allowed to Hold Hands?<br />We don’t hold hands around these parts of town." While a white lesbian couple could walk holding hands or even tongue<br />kiss in the middle of the street, lesbians of color, particularly black lesbians, have a hard time doing the same.<br />"You know bettah." That evening, my wife and I walked home without holding hands, and I had never felt so robbed.<br />But before my wife could say anything more, I tugged her arm<br />and said, "Just keep walking." My chest tightened and I felt helpless, reduced to a position of surrender like I would have been back home.<br />I felt outraged when this became more apparent to me, as an open femme, who can pass as straight —<br />the ultimate trigger for men who have a hard time accepting that women like us are out of reach.<br />A seemingly urban utopia populated by well-dressed transplants and those born and bred in the "do-or-die." But I would soon learn<br />that it is one thing to be black and lesbian in this urban utopia and another thing to act on it.<br />Modern Love By<br />NICOLE DENNIS-BENN<br />SEPT. 1, 2017<br />On our first date, I dared to give her a lingering hug on a crowded subway platform on West Fourth<br />Street, an unusual display of physical affection on my part, which I blamed on the wine.

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