Benedict Cumberbatch on Bullies: You Have to Meet it With Love Cumberbatch recently sat down with YouTube star Sarah Grace Brownlee and ended up giving her advice on dealing with bullying. As hard as it may seem, you have to meet it with love. You have to try and empathize with hate. Not hate yourself, but you have to understand why people often want to damage other people is because they’re damaged themselves. Cumberbatch also spoke on how young men should treat women. Respect, just respect. Equality. The central tenants of feminism: a place at the table and equality. Include and don’t exclude and learn what you can.