Anger management: 10 tips to tame your temper<br /><br />Anger is a normal and even healthy emotion — but it's important to deal with it in a positi-ve way. <br /><br />But uncontrolled anger can take a toll on both your health and your relationships.<br /><br />I have 10 anger management tips for you.<br /><br />1. Identify possible solutions<br />Instead of focusing on what made you mad, work on resolving the issue at hand. <br />When you are calm and relaxed, sit down and make a list of what makes you angry. Traffic jams, your demanding boss, the noisy children, rude neighbors, etc..<br />Now think of each situation, and try to note a positive reaction to say and do while in that very situation. Now try to recall that reaction when the situation happens for real.<br /><br />2. Think before you speak. Remember that you might say things that will cause irreparable damage.<br />In the heat of the moment, it's easy to say something you'll later regret. Take a few mo-ments to collect your thoughts before saying anything — and allow others involved in the situation to do the same.<br /><br />3. If you can’t control your anger, leave the scene before you hurt someone. And once you're calm, express your anger<br /><br />4. As soon as you're thinking clearly, express your frustration in an assertive but non-confrontational way. State your concerns and needs clearly and directly, without hurting others or trying to control them.<br /><br />5. Remember that violence will make the problem worse.<br />It's unrealistic to expect everyone to behave exactly as you want at all times. Try to forgive, thinking that the person who did you wrong probably did not mean to. <br />Remember that violence will make the problem worse, and might bring your life or that of your beloved in danger.<br /><br />6. Have a healthy lifestyle<br />Physical activity can help reduce stress that can cause you to become angry. DOing regular exericse will make much less prone to explosive spills of anger.<br />Also, get enough sleep, avoid junk food, eat healthily, take omega-3, sit in the early morn-ing sun as often as you can, or take vitaminD. <br /><br />7. Stick with the 'I' statements to describe your feelings about the situation<br />Avoid criticizing or placing blame on others — which might only increase tension — use "I" statements to describe the problem. Be respectful and specific. Mention the problem and how to solve it your opinion. For example, say, "I'm upset and I need your help around the house," instead of, "You never do any housework."<br /><br />8. Describe the problem, offer solutions, be cooperative, and make contact.<br />Instead of yelling and swearing: Mention what i wrong, suggest a way to solve the prob-lem, and be positive and encouraging.<br /><br />For example if your child breaks a glass. Mention: The glass is broken (not YOU broke the glass, stupid!), say: watch your feet, and let’s get to clean this. <br />After it’s over, hug your child and assure him that it’s all OK.<br /><br />9. Practice relaxation skills <br />When your temper flares, put relaxation skills to work. Practice deep-breathing exercises, imagine a relaxing scene, or repeat a calming word or phrase, such as, "Take it easy." You might also listen to music, write in a journal or do a few yoga poses — whatever it takes to encourage relaxation.<br /><br />Take a timeout<br />Give yourself short breaks during times of the day that tend to be stressful. Say: I’m very angry right now, let me talk about this when I’ve cooled down.<br /><br />10. Make a system and set of rules for your family and at work.<br />If everyone knows the system, there will be less chance for trouble.<br /><br />I wish you all the best!<br /><br />Subscribe to official Alyaa Gad channel : http://bit.ly/AlyaaGad<br /><br />Follow Alyaa Gad :<br />http://www.afham.tv<br />https://www.facebook.com/dr.AlyaaGad<br />https://twitter.com/AlyaaGad
