If we’ve experienced a series of negative events in our past, we often form negative beliefs about <br />women or sex. <br /> <br />This leads to a self-fulfilling prophecy. <br /> <br />Negative beliefs about women, through a process of self-selection, end up attracting those very <br />women into our lives. In psychology, <br />this is referred to as “Assortment Theory,” and it particularly holds true with self-esteem and gender <br />beliefs. <br /> <br />What this also means is that your insecurities about yourself are likely to inadvertently screen for <br />women with similar insecurities. <br /> <br />It’s important to single out your beliefs about women and sex and figure out why you have them and <br />if they possibly may not be true. <br /> <br />Common examples: <br />- Stereotypes about women, their behavior, and what they like. <br />- Manipulation and inability to trust. <br />- Self image issues and the women you attract. <br />Exercise <br /> <br />Evaluate beliefs you have about yourself, sex and women that you think might be hurting you. Write <br />what drives those beliefs and <br />why you believe them to be true. Consider what would happen if they weren’t true.
