Meet the mum with a “self-sufficient” husband - who she has never had to “train” to do the chores.<br /><br />Kendall Brackman, 36, says she and partner Tyler, 33, are equal in their marriage and as parents.<br /><br />The couple have a young son, Benjamin, three, together and split looking after him and chores between them.<br /><br />Kendall said they are “in tune” with each other and she has never had to ask Tyler, a construction worker, to do anything.<br /><br />For example, she often cooks and does with dishes - meaning Tyler knows to go and play with Benjamin and put him to bed.<br /><br />Kendall, a stay-at-home mum, said: “Someone women feel they have to train their husband.<br /><br />“I never had to change anything about my husband.<br /><br />“He’s very in tune.<br /><br />“My husband is self-sufficient person. He’s very motivated.”<br /><br />Kendall had conversations with Tyler early on to work out their values aligned – especially when it came to equal parenting.<br /><br />She decided to give her work up as a registered nurse after having Benjamin as he requires extra care for a brain abnormality which presents similarly to cerebral palsy.<br /><br />Kendall said: “If he didn’t have special needs I would have carried on working.<br /><br />“When my husband is with my son he is in full on dad mode.”<br /><br />Kendall said they do their roles and tasks and it is “unspoken”.<br /><br />She said: “I do all the cooking because I like it.<br /><br />“I do the dishes. But he takes Benjamin and does bath time and bed time.<br /><br />“He cuts the grass and does most of the things outside.”<br /><br />Kendall said Tyler is very attentive to her and what she needs.<br /><br />She said: “He knows me very well.<br /><br />“A lot of men they don’t see their duties as parenting.<br /><br />“They think the woman as the mum raises the child. And they ‘babysit’ once in a while.<br /><br />“My husband has never called it babysitting.”<br /><br />Kendall believes equal parenting should be seen as normal in a partnership.<br /><br />She said: “I feel it should be normal.<br /><br />“It’s something I wouldn’t settle on.<br /><br />“If he didn’t do these things I don’t think we would have a good marriage.<br /><br />“It’s something I wanted in a long term partner.”
