A relationship coach says women shouldn't date men who "can't afford their lifestyle", guys on a low salary "shouldn't be dating in the first place" and women are "investments".<br /><br />Karla Elia, 23, earns her living teaching women how to find the right man for the life they want - and believes "being treated right is the bare minimum".<br /><br />She suggests women shouldn't be treated equally to men - because women's time is "more precious".<br /><br />Karla claims many clients struggle to find their perfect man because they have the wrong mindset.<br /><br />She insists the right man to go for is one with a "provider mindset" - who will give their partner the best treatment.<br /><br />This including paying for all their dates before they're in a formal relationship and buying them gifts and flowers.<br /><br />Controversially, she said men who can't afford a woman "shouldn't be dating in the first place" - because they must add value to a woman's life to be worthy.<br /><br />She said there's no fixed salary a man needs to be earning before he should start dating - but it needs to be enough to afford his partner's expenses and needs as well as his own, whatever they may be.<br /><br />Karla, from San Diego, California, US, said: "In my experience, women are scared of speaking their standards.<br /><br />"They think there are no men like this out there - when actually there is a big pool of men with the provider mindset.<br /><br />"To find these men, you have to step into the energy of 'I am worthy, I am healing, and I am not making decisions from a place of insecurity.'<br /><br />"We shouldn’t be treated equal to men, we should be treated as women and we’re special, we should be treated as precious.<br /><br />"A man needs to understand he has to be in a financial place to invest in a woman. We are investments.<br /><br />"I know I can afford my lifestyle and if someone can't afford and add value to that, I would say 'thank you, next'."<br /><br />Karla - who married her husband Dustyn Elia, 25, in May 2022 said the reason women don't find "high quality men" is down to their mindset.<br /><br />She said Dustyn, who is currently transitioning career after six years in a high-ranking role in the US Navy, had no problems financially supporting her due to also having investments in the stock market.<br /><br />Women need to adopt an "abundance" mindset, rather than a "scarcity" one, Karla says.<br /><br />A "scarcity" mindset is a belief based on insecurity that there aren't many people out there that are right for you.<br /><br />An "abundance" mindset is dating knowing your worth and not making decisions out of fear of rejection.<br /><br />This is because Karla believes if you're on the hunt for someone to start a family with, women's time is "more precious".<br /><br />Karla clarified a 'provider' man is not the same as a 'traditional man' who would want his wife to be a homemaker rather than working.<br /><br />She says a provider is a man who "strives to be successful in every area of his life - and understands his woman will have her own goals".
