A mum follows "instinctual" parenting and co-sleeps with her baby, has no routine and carries her as much as she can – despite trolls saying it’s a bad "habit".<br /><br />Tiffany Chesson, 28, started co-sleeping by accident with her first child Teddy, five, and found it was the only way to get him to fall asleep.<br /><br />Now mum to five-month-old Lottie, Tiffany chooses to bed share and finds it helps her get more sleep.<br /><br />Tiffany and partner, Shaun, 28, an account manager, also refuse to use any products on Lottie and only bath her in milk and water.<br /><br />Tiffany says Lottie is a "velcro baby" and she likes to have her strapped to her as much as she can to maintain close contact.<br /><br />She says trolls say it’s a “bad habit” to get into – but claims it made her eldest, Teddy, feel more “secure” and he is now “more independent”.<br /><br />Tiffany, a customer experience director, from Sittingbourne, Kent, said: “She’s a velcro baby.<br /><br />“She doesn’t like being put down.<br /><br />“I get to be hands free by wearing her. I just like having that close contact.<br /><br />“I’m wearing her as much as I can.<br /><br />“We benefit from all the hormones.”<br /><br />Tiffany struggled to get Teddy to fall asleep as a baby but after accidentally co-sleeping with him she found it was the only thing that worked.<br /><br />He co-slept with them for seven months but now sleeps well in his own bed.<br /><br />Tiffany said: “We learned a lot from having Teddy.<br /><br />“I accidentally ended up co-sleeping.<br /><br />“I would never have done that. But he wouldn’t sleep without being held.<br /><br />“I made more of an intention with Lottie.”<br /><br />Tiffany has co-slept with Lottie since day one – and she says done safely it’s not dangerous.<br /><br />She said: “So many parents end up co-sleeping by accident.<br /><br />“There’s a lot of scare mongering.<br /><br />“We follow the Lullaby Trust safe sleeping guidelines.<br /><br />“The bed is very firm so she can’t dip down and there is a pillow by her head.<br /><br />“There is no adult duvet.<br /><br />“I do a cuddle curl – which is an arm over her and leg under, so she can’t slip.<br /><br />“It just means I get sleep.<br /><br />“When she needs milk she can latch on.<br /><br />“I don’t really notice waking up each time to breastfeed.”<br /><br />Tiffany will also carry Lottie around as much as she can – meaning she can easily do chores and run errands with her strapped to her.<br /><br />The pair also do contact cuddling – instead of putting Lottie down in a cot to sleep.<br /><br />Tiffany said: “People say I should ‘get out of the habit’.<br /><br />“But when a baby feels secure it’s going to be more independent.”<br /><br />Tiffany has no set routine for Lottie – but did feel the pressure first time around.<br /><br />She is now led by Lottie and when she wants to sleep and feed.<br /><br />She said: “I put a lot of pressure on myself.<br /><br />“They are growing so fast – what works one day, the next it’s a different case.<br /><br />“I’m being more instinctual.”<br /><br />Tiffany has also never done any sleep training – choosing to comfort her children if they cry instead of waiting it out.<br /><br />The family also make sure they get out for a walk every day and don't use any products on Lottie's skin. <br /><br />Tiffany said: “Baby's skin is very sensitive. They don't need to be scrubbed. <br /><br />"Teddy needs the fresh air and the chance to run around. <br /><br />“Our parenting is instinctual – and what works for us.<br /><br />“It’s led by them but our lives don’t revolve around it.”<br /><br />Tiffany says the parenting choices she has made with her second baby have made postpartum a lot “easier”.<br /><br />She said: “It’s just been easy.<br /><br />“I feel very happy.<br /><br />“Having that more chilled attitude.”<br /><br />Tiffany's instinctual parenting choices - <br /><br />- Co-sleeping<br />- Contact napping<br />- No set routine for the baby<br />- Not using any products on her baby - only using milk and water<br />- No sleep training<br />- Going for a walk every day
