A woman has shared her list of non-negotiables a man has to meet to date her – including being a feminist and "going beyond the bare minimum".<br />Phoebe Brooks, 21, put together her list of 13 "high standards" with her friend, Jemma McCoubrey, 21, after becoming single at the beginning of the year.<br />Phoebe - who is studying film production at Gloucestershire University - says anyone she dates has to be a feminist and "understand what we [women] put up with".<br />She wants all women to be with a man who is kind, mature, and who doesn’t need to be "mothered".<br />Phoebe wanted someone who is clean and tidy and has good friends with "no cheats". <br />Phoebe says her demands have been called "high standards" but she believes it’s not too much to ask for.<br />Phoebe, originally from Farnham, Surrey, said: "I needed a list to remind myself what is non-negotiable.<br />“I’ve got it on my wall – it’s a cute reminder.<br />“I’ve been told I’m high maintenance. I don’t think I am.<br />“Most of them are not big asks.<br />“They are the bare minimum.<br />“These are absolute non-negotiables.”<br />Phoebe - who is now in a relationship - believes a boyfriend should be a best friend and wants them to be emotionally intelligent.<br />She said: “I’ve always wanted that classic true love.<br />“You grow together. <br />"Everyone should have someone who is open minded to change.”<br />Loyalty, respect and honesty are also key traits Phoebe looks for in a partner.<br />She said: “Loyalty – it’s the bare minimum.<br />"They need to understand women and what we put up with."<br />Phoebe wants her partner to be a feminist and believe in equality – and says strangers have been outraged by it. <br />She said: “Being a feminist just means you think women should be equal. If you disagree that’s bizarre.<br />“People were raged.”<br />Phoebe needs someone who is mature and has good communication.<br />She said: “You can’t have a relationship without good communication.<br />“It’s frustrating growing up as a girl.<br />“People say boys mature slower. I’ve never listed to that.<br />“If boys had to deal with half the things girls do – they’d grow up too.”<br />Phoebe says someone she dates needs to have good friends.<br />She said: “Who you are friends with helps me decide if I want to be with you.<br />“I’d never get someone not be friend with someone.<br />“I wouldn’t ask someone to change, I’d just leave.”<br />Phoebe also wants a protective partner but wants them to respect boundaries and not become controlling.<br />It’s important her partner shares the same aims and values in life.<br />Phoebe said: “You have to have the same aims in life.<br />“People think it’s weird to ask if you want marriage or kids this young but how do you know if you want to be with someone?<br />“It’s about growing together while both having different careers.”<br />Phoebe believes most of her standards should be expected and wants men to go above and beyond.<br />She said: “Go beyond the bare minimum.<br />“It’s little things – like telling you how much you mean to them."
